{"id":48251,"date":"2018-12-04T10:30:49","date_gmt":"2018-12-04T07:30:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/haberrizem.com\/ebeveyn-ve-cocuk-arasinda-catisma-nicin-olur-cocuklarda-olumsuz-davranislarin-sebebi-nedir\/haber-48251.html"},"modified":"2018-12-04T10:30:49","modified_gmt":"2018-12-04T07:30:49","slug":"ebeveyn-ve-cocuk-arasinda-catisma-nicin-olur-cocuklarda-olumsuz-davranislarin-sebebi-nedir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haberrizem.com\/ebeveyn-ve-cocuk-arasinda-catisma-nicin-olur-cocuklarda-olumsuz-davranislarin-sebebi-nedir\/haber-48251.html","title":{"rendered":"Ebeveyn ve \u00e7ocuk aras\u0131nda \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma ni\u00e7in olur? \u00c7ocuklarda olumsuz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n sebebi nedir?"},"content":{"rendered":"

NEGATIF EBEVEYN TUTUMLARI \u00c7OCUKLARDA PS\u0130KOLOJ\u0130K SORUNLARA NEDEN OLUYOR<\/strong><\/p>\n

Annelerin en b\u00fcy\u00fck istekleri ba\u015fl\u0131ca; \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131, \u00f6zg\u00fcvenli, ak\u0131ll\u0131, marifetli olmas\u0131 gibi \u015feylerdir. B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131 isteyen anneler kendileri i\u00e7in ise \u201c\u00e7ok iyi, sab\u0131rl\u0131, anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 ve sevgi batm\u0131\u015f anne\u201d olma gibi hedefler belirler. Ama jurnal ya\u015fam\u0131n getirdi\u011fi zorunluluklar nedeniyle ideal \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirme sorumlulu\u011fu, bazen sekteye u\u011frayabilir. <\/p>\n

\u0130stanbul Okan \u00dcniversitesi Hastanesi \u00c7ocuk ve Ergen Psikolojisi Uzman\u0131 Klinik Psikolog Emel G\u00fcler, anlatt\u0131. <\/p>\n

\u201cSONRA P\u0130\u015eMAN OLUYORUM\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Anne elde etmek, daha \u00f6nce deneyimlenmeyen o kadar \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 duygu, zihin ve tutum i\u00e7erisinde olmay\u0131 da beraberinde getiriyor. Oysa jurnal ya\u015fam\u0131n getirdi\u011fi zorunluluklar sebebiyle ideal \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirme sorumlulu\u011fu sekteye u\u011frayabiliyor. \u201cOnu azarl\u0131yorum\u201d, \u201csinirleniyorum\u201d , \u201csonra fazla pi\u015fman oluyorum\u201d gibi s\u00f6ylemler sahiden annelerin isteksiz olarak yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n pi\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 yans\u0131t\u0131yor. Annelerin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6zden d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 aleyhinde, onlar\u0131 cezaland\u0131rmalar\u0131, ba\u011f\u0131rmalar\u0131 gibi tepkiler vermeleri s\u0131kl\u0131kla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131lan bir durumdur.<\/p>\n

“\u00c7OCU\u011eUNUZUN HIR\u00c7INLI\u011eININ NEDEN\u0130 OLA KI DE S\u0130Z\u0130N \u0130LG\u0130N\u0130Z\u0130 \u00c7EKMEK \u0130\u00c7\u0130ND\u0130R<\/strong>“<\/p>\n

Geli\u015fim basamaklar\u0131nda, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 sorunlar\u0131n bir\u00e7o\u011fu o d\u00f6neme ait olan ve annelerin deste\u011fiyle \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmlenebilecek sorunlard\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011fun be\u011fenilmeyen davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131 hayk\u0131rmak, o lahza i\u00e7in i\u00e7ten ve tek \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor olsa da, ard\u0131ndan \u00e7ocukta negatif sonu\u00e7lar do\u011furabilir. <\/p>\n

Olumsuz ebeveyn tutumlar\u0131n\u0131n, \u00e7ocuklarda psikolojik sorunlara ni\u00e7in oldu\u011fu bilinmektedir. bu nedenle, ba\u015fta \u00e7ocu\u011fun davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n a\u015fa\u011f\u0131da yatan sebebi anlamaya hedeflemek gerekir. H\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n nedeni olur ya de; sizin ilginizi \u00e7ekmek i\u00e7indir ya da uyuklamak istememesi sizi \u00f6zledi\u011fi i\u00e7in olabilir.<\/p>\n

P\u0130\u015eMANLI\u011eINIZDAN DERS \u00c7IKARARAK OLAYLA \u0130LG\u0130L\u0130 DE\u011eER BI\u00c7ME YAPIN!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Su\u00e7luluk duygusu kendi de\u011ferlerimizi, ahlaki kurallar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ihlal etti\u011fimiz, vicdan\u0131m\u0131za uymayan durumlar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar. b\u00f6ylece \u00e7ocu\u011fa istemedi\u011fimiz \u015fekilde kullanmak su\u00e7luluk duymay\u0131 ve sonras\u0131nda da pi\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 getirir. Sahiden t\u00f6vbe etmek, bir bak\u0131ma \u00f6z denetleme sa\u011flama, durumdan ders \u00e7\u0131karma, olayla ilgili de\u011ferleme yapma gibi fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011fa kar\u015f\u0131n sonu\u00e7lar sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda geli\u015ftiricidir.<\/p>\n

A\u015eIRI TELAF\u0130 Y\u00d6NTEMLER\u0130NE M\u00dcRACAAT ETMEK D\u00dcR\u00dcST YOK!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Su\u00e7luluk duyup, fazla telafi y\u00f6ntemlerine uygulamak, \u00e7ocu\u011fun isteklerine a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 hassasiyet g\u00f6stererek her istedi\u011fini ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmek veya bunun b\u00fct\u00fcn tersi, annenin kendisine olan g\u00fcvenini yitirerek, bi\u00e7are ve beceriksiz hissederek \u00e7\u00f6kmesi, g\u00f6zden d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f durumun \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc i\u00e7in yerinde y\u00f6ntemler de\u011fildir. veya g\u00fcya hi\u00e7bir \u015fey olmam\u0131\u015f gibi adet edinmek, oldu\u011fu gibi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek de uygun de\u011fildir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir \u015feyler oldu\u2026 Anne ile \u00e7ocuk aras\u0131nda istenmeyen bir ko\u015ful ya\u015fand\u0131.<\/p>\n

HATAYI KABUL ED\u0130P BUNU \u00c7OCU\u011eUNUZA G\u00d6STERMEL\u0130S\u0130N\u0130Z<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fumuzu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz durumlarda \u00e7ocuk \u00e7ok k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck de olsa \u201cdaha k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck anlamaz\u201d demeden, hissetti\u011fimiz rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 belirterek \u00e7ocuktan \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemeliyiz. Hi\u00e7 birimiz m\u00fckemmel de\u011filiz ve hata yapabiliriz. Bunu kabul ederek \u00e7ocu\u011fun g\u00f6rmesini temin etmek, \u00e7ocu\u011fun g\u00f6z\u00fcnde ebeveyni k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcltmez tam aksine onu birey olarak kabul etti\u011fimizi ve ne dek \u00e7ok lay\u0131k verdi\u011fimizi g\u00f6sterir.<\/p>\n

NE SIKLIKTA OLDU\u011eU KAYDA DE\u011eER!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n istenmeyen davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda annenin sonra vicdan azab\u0131 ya\u015fayaca\u011f\u0131 y\u00f6ntemlere ba\u015fvurmas\u0131 ne s\u0131kl\u0131kta oluyor? S\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 fazlaysa o s\u00fcre, bu durumu bir \u00e7ocuk ve ergen psikolojisi uzman\u0131ndan, profesyonel destek alarak de\u011ferlendirip \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme ula\u015ft\u0131rmak gerekiyor.<\/p>\n

ALTTA YATAN ASIL NEDEN\u0130 BULUN!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Anne ile \u00e7ocuk aralar\u0131nda bu durumun ya\u015fanmas\u0131n\u0131n nedeni;<\/p>\n

\u2022 Annenin tolerans\u0131n\u0131n azl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan m\u0131?
\u2022 Ebeveyn tutumlar\u0131n\u0131n, tutars\u0131z olu\u015fundan m\u0131?
\u2022 Beklentilerin \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fimine, ya\u015f\u0131na ve durumuna yerinde olmamas\u0131ndan m\u0131?
\u2022 Kat\u0131 disiplin y\u00f6ntemlerinin uygulan\u0131yor olmas\u0131ndan m\u0131?
\u2022 Annenin s\u0131n\u0131r koymada etkin y\u00f6ntemler uygulam\u0131yor olmas\u0131ndan m\u0131?
\u2022 \u00c7ocu\u011fa disiplin sa\u011flamada zorluklar ya\u015fanmas\u0131 m\u0131?
\u2022 * veya ba\u015fka bir nedeni mi var? <\/p>\n

Annelerin, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in daha sonra pi\u015fman olacaklar\u0131, istemedikleri davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6stermemeleri i\u00e7in; sorunun altta yatan nedenini anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, her yerde ayn\u0131 \u015fart ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda nas\u0131l bir tutum sergileyeceklerini \u00f6nceden planlamalar\u0131, fevri davranmadan durup d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek hareket etmeleri gerekir. Bu sayede anne ile \u00e7ocuk aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkinin zedelenmesi \u00f6nlenerek, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve g\u00fcvene dayal\u0131 bir ili\u015fkinin geli\u015fmesi desteklenmi\u015f olur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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